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CAN A REBOUND RELATIONSHIP HELP YOU RECOVER?

By Kasom Salim

MOST OF THEM WON'T

Can a rebound relationship help a person recover?
Can a rebound relationship help a person ease the pain of breakups?

Well to be direct. The majority of rebound relationships fail to help people recover.

People fail to recover from breakups because of so many different reasons that are strongly connected to the false understanding of both relationships and breakups.

When a person gets into a rebound relationship he isn't actually fixing the core reasons that led to the pain in the first place and that's why there is a great possibility that his emotions will stay the same if not get worse.

Let's suppose that you felt worried because you had an exam in few days. Will watching TV, sleeping or distracting yourself help with worrying?

Of course no because your mind wants you to study and this is why it's sending you the worrying signals. The same goes for breakups. Your brain wants you to fix your beliefs about both relationships and breakups in order to recover and that's why it sent you that pain.

Now when you respond by getting into another relationship nothing will actually happen. In fact your mood could get worse, even keeping yourself busy will never works.

The problem with rebound relationships

Whether you like it or not your mind will keep comparing your new relationship partner to your old one. See also why we miss our exes when we meet new people.

It's just the fact that the brain always tries to compare everyone to the love map it has in order to find the perfect match. The great problem happens when your brain discovers that this person you are with is not as good as the one you were with at least according to your own point of view.

In such a case a new array of bad emotions might be introduced such as regret, guilt and disappointment. The problem here is that you didn't look for a perfect match but you just looked for a pain killer to feel better about yourself, See why i always fall in love with the wrong people.

And as you might have already discovered, pain killers never last for long. Moreover those comparisons might strengthen the false beliefs you have about relationships.

Here is how you might think about it: If i can't forget that person even after i got into another relationship then he must have been the one. In article How to get over anyone in few days i explained how the false belief about the soul mate is the number one reason that prevents people from recovering.

This is why people usually find it harder to recover from the first relationship. As your false beliefs become stronger recovery will become much harder , since recovery is all about fixing beliefs, and so the rebound relationship might actually ruin your mood.
Are you a love addict?

Love addicts are the people who fail to live without a relationship. Those people are usually the ones who get into rebound relationships as fast as they can because being single for them is a catastrophe.

Those people usually get into the wrong relationship fast , exit it fast and find a new one fast. Love addicts think that relationships are the soloution to all problems but they always end up disappointed.

Love addiction is a serious issue because it prevents a person from working on his wrecked life and instead forces him to seek any fast relationship to end the pain resulting from those problems.

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